Do you ever feel frustrated that your schedule is packed full of things that you think you should show up for, but you really would rather not?
Or have you ever said yes to being part of something because you felt you ought to, rather than really wanting to?
Let’s look at how this might show up in your body:
- When you’re feeling overwhelmed by all you have to get done does tension begin to grow in your neck and shoulders as you start scrunching up with anticipation and anxiety?
- Do you particularly feel discomfort in your low back when you’re feeling overextended, rushing, and unaware of how you are carrying your pelvis or that you’re lifting things from your back rather than your legs and core?
- Are you always leaning in, pulling your head forward out of alignment towards the person you’re talking to, or your phone or whatever you’re working on?
- Or maybe you don’t feel any of these things, and just feel cut off from your body and only conscious of the thoughts, worries and concerns running through your mind
Listening to your body’s wisdom, listening to the sensations and sometimes discomforts that you experience is key to receiving the messages from your body and your intuition.
Intuition is listening to the authentic voice of your body – your gut instinct.
When you can see your body as your partner, a part of your wholeness, rather than something that isn’t working or is holding you back, then you can hear what your gut instinct has to say.
Rather than jumping to judge yourself for any discomfort you feel in your body, or race to workout or stretch to relieve the tension you feel, first try listening to the wisdom your body holds.
Your body and your mind are not separate…your thoughts influence your energy and your behavior and your body is holding all of this.
Trust your body. It is present in this moment, right here, right now. It is not where your thoughts are going back into the past of previous experience, or running to the future of what will happen if you do or don’t do this or that.
Your body responds to what is happening now. Being aware of the response you feel in your body in the moment can give clues to what you actually want to do.
For example, if you have been wanting more time and spaciousness in your life, but you’re receiving a request that demands your time, before saying YES or NO notice how you feel. Honor what comes up. The sensation you feel in your body and your energy can clue you into what you sense will serve you best.
Sometimes that means saying No to things, without judgment of yourself.
Try it out:
Next time an opportunity arises where an invitation or request is being made of you or your time, take a moment before you respond.
- Feel – for what you sense in your body and energy
- Listen – to what your body wisdom and intuition tell you
- Ask yourself – Why is this important? Let yourself receive the affirmation of how your gut instinct knows what is best for you and honor this body wisdom.
- Be open – sometimes we can get into black and white thinking of Yes and No to things in our lives, and often there are other creative options available. Be open to possibility.
- Speak for your needs – give your response with confidence and clarity and no need for explanation or back-story.
The more you practice this the more you can feel and honor the voice of your intuition and body wisdom – your authentic voice.
I also recognize that it’s not always easy to do this, so if you’re struggling to hear your body’s wisdom, you’re not alone!
Keep practicing, and if you feel you need some training wheels or a giant boost in that direction, I invite you to message me. I have a few spots opening up for private clients both via Skype sessions & in-person in DC and I would be thrilled to talk with you. Just click reply and let me know you want support!
P.S. I love this poem and thought you would too!
One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
their bad advice –
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
each voice cried.
But you had to stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do –
determined to save
the only life you could save.
by – Mary Oliver
New and Selected Poems